I have no idea who Charles H. Parkhurst is but he has an awesome quote so I should give him the credit, “Purpose is what gives life meaning…a drifting boat always drifts downstream.” In other words, without purpose and vision we will just drift aimlessly.
When families become that “drifting boat”, they live in a constant state of REacting to life rather than ACTING on life and seizing the moment, the day and their destiny!
I totally can relate to how easily this can happen as the busy and even GOOD things of life can rob us from investing our time in the BEST. But here is the mission (if you choose to accept it, fellow agents!)…
1. CREATE a vision for your family.
2. LIVE with that vision in mind.
3. TRY again when the vision gets lost in the craziness!
Here’s a few practical ways we are trying to flesh this out with our crew. One of the visions for our family is that we will always be close-knit and will protect each other and believe the best (and look for it) in one another. We pray for God to help us to do this and ask Him to keep us united. When the boys get into a throw-down over serious life issues, like who gets to be the red Spiderman (verses the black one of course), it’s a great time to practice living out our vision. I grab the hand of my red Spiderman and my black Spiderman and ask them,
“Who is always going to be your best friend? Your brother, right?” (Also a good time for some brain-washing!) “Well, is this how we treat best friends? Do you think there is some selfishness in your heart that God wants to change? Let’s pray right now that Jesus will help us be kind and put others first.”
If this doesn’t work, I just duct tape them together until they kiss and make up. That works too. Just kidding…maybe.
Another vision for our family is that we want to do life together, even now with lots of little ones. Of course, some days it just can’t happen but we try our darndest!
For example, we ALL go shopping at Target together. The battle plan is laid out before we even exit the suburban. “You will not scream, grab, wiggle, talk or breath in this store. You will be an angel and I will be happy I brought you today.” Okay, that’s not exactly what we say, but we do go over some expectations first. We then load them in a cart and try to have some fun while stocking up on diapers in hopes that we will single-handedly sky-rocket our shares invested in Pampers company. When the kids attempt to exit our moving vehicle and their little hands get stuck on every super-hero toy, we remind them of our vision.
“We are here to spend time together because it’s fun to do things as a family. We’re not here just to buy toys and candy.”
When that doesn’t work, we get out the duct-tape again and tape them to the cart. Boy that stuff comes in handy.
|Doing life together: Superhero Party for Judah where we were ALL superheros for him!|
Well, happy visioning, my fellow agents!
*Stay tuned for tomorrow’s follow-up blog: Vision Retreats!!