Sunday, June 5, 2011

A Carnival Story

The carnival came to town the weekend of my hubby's birthday and I thought: PERFECT!  I haven't been to the carnival without strollers, kids and sippy-cups in tow since I was sixteen.  We met up with some good friends and had a blast...


Tickets stuffed in our pockets, ready for the ferris wheel!




Hitting up the climbing wall...



Am I really ready for the twisting, upside-down, spinning ride after our nice dinner on the town?  Well....I definitely had memories of that dinner.


My sweetie won a goldfish for our kids and my girlfriend and I scored some lightsabers for the boys at the balloon-dart game!  Couldn't wait to get home to give the kids our winnings!



The kids LOVED the lightsabers...


...AND the fish that was affectionately named "Shark-bait" (although my four-year-old nicknamed him "Anikan Skywalker").  EvaLee was fascinated...



It's with much sorrow we must say that "Shark-bait" went belly-up the next morning and all gathered for his funeral at the Cole Family Toilet.

The carnival for Bob's Birthday Celebration was great memories for all!


Thursday, June 2, 2011

28 Days of Promise and Props (Happy Birthday, Honey!!)



The one I chose to be with forever is turning 28 years old today!  To celebrate the fact that I robbed the cradle (I’m already in my “thirties”!!) and to do something special, I’m surprising him with this blog post.  In typical-Tara-fashion, I’m running a little LATE!


The day “June 2nd” loomed bigger and BIGGER each day when I glanced at our calendar, Bob’s birthday is coming and I have no idea what to buy him!  I thought.  Another weed whacker?  No, if I buy him another that he may jinx with his “special touch”, people will start touring our yard thinking we have a Week Whacker Museum out back.  Maybe a new knife?  Nah, he’s got enough to make a Knife Museum too!  More socks?  A new wallet?  Lifetime supply of Mt. Dew?  All of these ideas just seemed to be lacking one important thing…my heart.


So, here it is: 28 Days of Promises and Props! Each day (starting on your birthday, dear) I’m sharing something I love about you (a prop) or a “promise of the day”. Of course, there must be some kind of consequence that can be given if I DON’T do it (all’s fair in love and war, right?), so…with GREAT pain I agree to allow you to give me 28 pinches if I don't keep the promise of the day (my HUGE pet peeve!!).  Now, so help me God, here they are….(p.s. feel free to print this off and tape it to my forehead so I don't forget).




BIRTHDAY DAY (Day 1): I promise to not nag you.  Ignoring the unfinished trim in the bathroom, the hole in the siding out front and other various chores that sometimes make me wonder what happened to the Bob the Builder side of you, I hereby do swear to SHUT MY MOUTH.   Just for one day though, God’s mercies and my “reminders” (I.e., nagging) are fresh every morning!!


Day 2:  I love the way your whiskers tickle my face and wake me up every morning when you kiss me goodbye before leaving for work.


Day 3:  I promise to say ONLY sweet and positive words.  Did you just pass out in shock?!


Day 4:  I love the way you laugh at yourself!


Day 5:  You can be an HOUR late for dinner and I promise I won’t be waiting for you with my “glare-stare”.  Won't you miss it though?!


Day 6:  I love that we annoy each other sometimes but wouldn’t have it any other way!!


Day 7:  I promise to kiss you like I did when we were dating…no matter how many little monkeys are jumping around us.




Day 8:  I love the sound of your voice when I pick up the phone, it’s an oasis of comfort and joy in hectic days.


Day 9:  I promise you can pick ANYTHING you want for dinner (yes, even that tuna-macaroni stuff I hate making) and I WILL MAKE IT!


Day 10:  I love the way our daughter’s tiny hand grips your finger when she walks next to you.


Day 11:  I promise to watch your favorite sports/TV show/etc. with you and ENJOY it (or at least pretend to!).


Day 12:  I love the way you don’t try to solve my problems and just LISTEN (or maybe you just figured out by now solving them all just aint happening!)


Day 13:  I promise you a FREE NIGHT!  Go party with the boys (your friends or our boys!) and LIVE it up, my man!!




Day 14:  I love the way you become a wrestling mat after dinner every night for our three rambunctious little wrestlers to jump on, climb over and smother with laughter and tickles!


Day 15:  I promise to move the seat back today (see "Pet Peeve Showdown" )


Day 16:  I love the sound of your breathing (SNORING!) while you sleep next to me (this is more of a self-brainwashing-technique I’m trying!)


Day 17:  I promise to go to bed by 11 p.m. tonight so that I won’t be crabby the next day, that’s a treat, right?!


Day 18:  I love your smile.


Day 19:  I promise to NOT “organize” your side of the room today (translation: I won’t put all your stuff where you can’t find it when you need it).


Day 20:  I love that you still pursue me (thank you).




Day 21:  I promise to find a babysitter for a date night of YOUR choice (fishing, shooting, golf…I’m serious!).


Day 22:  I love that your black socks leave little lint balls all over our bedroom's crème colored carpet (see above for “self-brainwashing-technique”!!)


Day 23:  I promise to be ON TIME FOR CHURCH this Sunday.  Do you need a paper bag to hyperventilate into right now!?


Day 24:  I love that you sing our children to sleep (your singing has that effect on people…ha ha!).


Day 25:  I promise to bring your fave McD’s lunch order to your work today.


Day 26:  I love your strong but gentle ways with our family.


Day 27:  I promise to keep promising and trying to love you the best that I can because, gosh darn it, you deserve it!!


Day 28:  I love you!  Happy 28th Birthday, Bobby!! 

Tuesday, May 31, 2011

Your Momma Is A...


What’s the job of a mother?

According to my three-year-old, Judah, it can be summed up like this:  “A Momma’s job is to clean blank-blanks (I.e., favorite blankets), clean messes, turn lights on, hang up some pictures and give tickles.”

If only it were that easy!!

Mother.

One name, a gazillion and one roles to play.  Our job could be summed up like this, a mother is: a housekeeper, disciplinarian, teacher, chef, nurse, role model, chauffeur, maid, butler, caretaker, cheerleader, drill sergeant, prayer-warrior, social director, leader, manager, visionary, mentor, coach, clown, travel agent, banker, negotiator, technician, bookkeeper, peacekeeper, therapist, story teller, personal shopper, sports fan, activist, companion, wife...okay, you get the idea!!


I don’t know about you fellow mamas-in-the-trenches, but wearing that many different hats can be a real pain in the neck (especially so when those hats don’t always fit right and they make us itch).

There are some roles we fill with ease and usually enjoy doing.  For example, I actually enjoy the role of cook: making a five course dinner (when I am not multi-tasking between my brood, food and the usual frenzy) is challenging and rewarding for me.  I also love playing chauffeur; driving from here to there with the kids (usually with a phone stuck to my ear) is relaxing and enjoyable to me.

Then there are the other roles.

Maid: I would just as soon as hire Ella from Enchanted to dance around my house, magically leaving sparkling sinks and shiny toilets in her wake.  Nurse: considering how I passed out when I was on a tour of the hospital and a real nurse demonstrated to us how shots are given, I’d rather pass on this one (I’m embarrassed to add it was a tour given to kindergartners using a fake needle with red water and I was one of the chaperons!)

As you read this, perhaps you identify with certain roles of motherhood you enjoy and other roles you also would like to avoid like the plague.  I propose a possibility at why we woman are called to be mothers, a high calling but a very difficult one.


I believe we were called to be mothers because God knew we couldn’t do it.  What?!  You may be thinking, has this Momma lost her marbles (and you’re not thinking of my kid’s toy ones!)!?  My response: exactly, it doesn’t make sense.  If God knew that we could do it without him, in our own strength and brain-power, then He would have worked himself out of a job.  I think God loves to be needed by us!  He is our ever present help in time of trouble (verse here), our strength when we are weak (Psalm 46:1-3) and the very reason we were created (Col. 1:15-17).

No matter how easy you’re three-year-old may think you’ve got it as a Momma, the role of a mother is a very difficult job sometime, but is there any other role you’d rather have?  Thankfully, there is help and strength available to empower us every step of the way so we never have to do it alone.  And if my Judah has a say in it, as long as we get the "important stuff" right, like giving tickles and turning on the light, I think we're doing pretty darn good!!



Saturday, May 28, 2011

Sunday Morning Doughnut Balls


We love traditions around here!  Some of our favorite traditions involve a special meal/yummy recipe and I would LOVE to share one of our favorites (and super easy ones) with you...

*Disclaimer: this isn't for those who have aversions to fried foods and lots of sugar!!  This is NOT low fat (;  That's why we only have them once in awhile, like Sunday Mornings!

Gather up yer' grub:
*1 can of buttermilk biscuits (this is plenty for our kids when we have other foods served, like eggs and fruit, but you may need 2 cans or more!)
* Enough oil (I use canola which has no trans fats) to fill a medium pan (this can be saved to reuse too!)
* Sugar!  We like both regular and powdered
* Scissors
* Lots of paper towels
(pretty simple, hey?)

Step 1:  Heat up the oil over medium heat.  Oil should come to a "gentle rolling boil" when it's ready.  On my stove-top, 2-3 is a good setting for this.  You want to be sure the balls are cooked through and not overly browned when done.


Step 2: Cut up each biscuit into thirds using scissors (or a knife).  Roll them into balls (kids are great with helping with this step!).



They are ready to get FRIED!


...almost done!  (They should be golden brown and pop to the top of the oil when ready, use a tongs to spin them to keep them browning evenly)


Drain those babies on some paper towels and it's time for their SUGAR bath!


Roll them in your choice of sugar and serve while still warm, YUM!!


The verdict is in by our littlest voters: WE LOVE DOUGHNUT BALLS!!

Wednesday, May 25, 2011

No Easy Answers


Tonight I stood in a quiet hospital room feeling absolutely helpless.

I felt shock, anger, sadness and without words as tears streamed down my face.  The clock on the wall in the hospital room was the only steady noise to be heard even though the room was filled with people.  The steady noise I longed to hear, the steady noise the dear mother laying on the bed longed to hear was the sound of her sleeping baby.  My precious friend was holding her newborn baby boy in her arms and he was perfect in every way.  His cheeks were chubby and soft and tiny fingers intertwined with his mother’s shaking fingers as he seemed to be asleep.  Only he was not sleeping, he was dead.  


Her tiny son had been kicking in what seemed to be anticipation when she arrived that morning for her scheduled C-section but things got complicated quickly.  I felt like a knife pierce my heart when my friend looked at me and sobbed “This was supposed to be the happiest day of my life but it has become the very worst.”  Even now, I shudder to remember her tear streaked face hovering over that tiny baby’s peaceful one.


My feet echoed down the tile hallway when I left the birthing center, a crushing weight of sorrow on my lungs, my breath coming out in shallow gasp as I tried to cope with what had just happened.  The echo of my shoes in the empty corridor brought me back to a few years before this day when I was leaving a different birthing center room in a different city.


I had felt the same feelings of helplessness and sorrow after saying goodbye to my longtime childhood friend.  Even though her eyes were filled with tears, a sense of shock hung in a hospital room designed to welcome a newborn baby that had instead became a resting place for a tiny baby girl.  That baby girl was also perfect in every way from her dimpled fingers to tiny toes but her unique baby cry would never be heard on this earth.  My dear friend will one day hear her laugh and witness her baby girl run and dance…but not yet.


One day both of my friends will hold their babies and feel those little bodies snuggle into their arms, full of life and full of joy…but not yet.


One day I will get to hold our baby boy. I never got a chance to breath in his soft baby smell or blow on his chubby belly and hear him laugh that baby laugh, the purest sound in the whole universe.


So tonight, as I rode the elevator back down to the parking lot, my heart heavy and my eyes blurry, I had to wonder the question we all wonder in times like these, “Why?”


I knew there was no easy answer. If there was an answer, we would have to wait until the other side of Eternity.  Standing alone in the elevator, I realized I was asking this question to Someone who really can relate to me and the many others whom have had to do the unthinkable: bury their own child.


It was 2,000 years ago that God watched the burial of his own beloved Son.  What kind of sorrow filled his heart to see his Son die a cruel death after a life lived in such selfless love?  When his Son stepped out of that tomb three days later, what excitement must have filled Heaven as a joyful Father got ready: I’m going to hold my boy again!  His Son made a way so that each one of us can make a choice and one day, we can forever hold those we have lost.


Why should a parent ever have to bury their child?  I don’t know.  I shudder to think about this terrible side of life.  But there is one thing I do know, He cares and He understands.

Monday, May 23, 2011

Dancing with the Stars...or NOT!


What would possess a mother who still gets up at night with a new baby to stay up past midnight, wearing a dress and spelling out Y-M-C-A in front of a mirror?  The answer is really a confessional.  If there is ever a spotlight shining on a dance floor, I can guarantee you where I’ll be: NOT in it!  In fact, me, rhythm and "moves" are like oil and water: we just don’t mix.

I can paint.

I can write (well, you be the judge of that!).

I can calm a fussy baby.

But  (cringing to admit this)….I CAN’T DANCE!

I could blame it on my southern roots (I’m a Cajun girl!) where we are better at being still in heats hot enough to fry an egg on the sidewalk.  I could blame it on my color (if white men can’t jump, would it be safe to say this white woman can’t dance!?) or I could even blame it on being born with two left feet.


There’s a reason after I tried out for cheerleading in junior high one of the coaches patted me on the back with that smile (you know, the “ohhhh…hon…nice try” smile) and said, “You have great spirit, Tara!”  I bawled my eyes out when I got home in my mother’s lap and she assured me as she wiped away my tears, “You are good at OTHER things, honey!”

Things OTHER than dancing.  It was shortly after my dream of wearing a little red and white striped skirt and punching pom poms into the air died a miserable death that I finally came to terms with my fate: I will never take Broadway!  I will never flutter across the stage and bask in the oohhhs and ahhhss of the masses!  I CAN’T DANCE!


This well-known fact (known well by anyone that knows me well!) has nonetheless never prevented me from throwing my heart and spirit (that was something I DID nail at the tryouts!) into dancing in every function I’ve attended from the coast of Louisiana to the borders of Canada.  I’ve even enjoyed embarrassing myself with some salsa dancing moves back in the day when I hit up some clubs in the big city.

But tonight, while trying on dresses for some upcoming summer weddings, I knew it was time.  Time to put away my “more is more” dance move mentality (the more head wiggling and butt jiggling the better, right?!) and become a woman of grace and glam on the dance floor.  Thus, I sought out the best studio (my bedroom in front of the full length mirror), hired the most sought after instructor (my husband, the price was right) and picked the classiest wedding song (The YMCA) and got to work.  

We pivoted slowly, shifted smoothly, and moved arms gracefully in an attempt to transform my dance moves from super scary to elegant fairy.  Overall, I think it was just an excuse for my instructor to cop a feel.  But between hysterical laughter (mostly his when I whipped out my Top Five BEST Moves) and collapsing on the floor in defeat (and MORE laughter), I don’t think I came away as a woman of graceful dancing but we had a heckuva time and, in the end, that’s the best move we can make!
Tinkerbell Disney

....And The WINNER Is!!!

Thank you all for joining us on our new adventures with Belle of the Bustle!  I am so excited to get to know each one of you and grow in friendship while having FUN!

The name was drawn out of a hat this morning (by our unbiased professional-my four year old who can't read yet!) and the WINNER of the $25 Target gift-card is...

Jamie Nebel!

Congrats, Jamie!  Send me your address and I'll get that in the mail to you today!  Be blessed ya'll!

Much Love, Tara